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Plan time to be alone with me.
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Spend more time in foreplay – kissing and touching.
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Tell me what upset you during the day.
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Tell me what pleases you during the day.
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Focus on what I’m saying, and don’t be distracted
when we talk.
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Tell me when you feel I’ve let you down.
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Work on letting your anger go and getting back on
track with me.
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Take a massage class with me.
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Show me affection outside the bedroom.
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Buy new furniture for the bedroom (where you brought
your lover).
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Talk to me directly about your feelings. Don’t clam
up and withdraw or attack me.
Don’t use humor or sarcasm to make your point.
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Ask me how I feel; don’t interpret my behavior or
assume you know how I feel.
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Hold me and show understanding when I’m upset; don’t
give up on me.
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Make weekend plans for us.
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Work on being more understanding of my need to take
on independent projects;
don’t assume I’m trying to escape you.
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Tell me when you feel insecure about us, rather than
assume I’m deceiving you.
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Provide me with an accurate itinerary when you
travel.
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Limit your overnight travel.
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Tell me when you run into your lover.
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Tell me if your lover contacts you.
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Tell me if you’re planning to contact your lover.
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Show me what pleases you sexually.
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Tell me when you feel proud of me, and why.
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Call me during the day.
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Tell me how you feel – share your intimate thoughts
with me.
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Tell me when you like the way I look.
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Tell me when you feel happy or more optimistic about
our future together.
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Come home from work in time to have dinner with the
family.
